Why You May not Have Chosen your Self Perception

I am about to reveal the most shocking truth in this post. You will be shocked to learn that your self perception may not have been chosen by you. Most times, through act of ignorance, we have allowed other people define our self perception. Happy Reading…

Often times, we let others shape who we are. The environment we’re in and the people we know mold our personalities and outlooks on life, but that shouldn’t be done to the point that you ignore your own wishes.

You have to be content with who you are, and to be absolutely content with yourself, you must carve out your own personality. It can be scary, if all you’ve ever known is doing what other people told you, but you’ll never be truly happy until you pursue your own path.

It’s very easy to be influenced by others – especially when you’re young and still developing. You might have had a mean teacher who told you that you would never amount to anything, and those words might stick with you today.

Maybe one or both of your parents placed expectations too high or too low for you. They might have told you that you have to be a doctor or a lawyer, and nothing else will do, or they may have told you that you might as well get comfortable working at NNPC, because that’s all you’ll ever be good for.

You have to find the strength and the courage to dismiss these expectations, and be who you want to be. None of these people telling you who you’re going to have to be know you better than you know yourself.

Many are just nervous. For example, if you want to launch your own online business, but they’re unfamiliar with it, they may try to dissuade you from it out of sheer fear. You’ll have to do it without their support and understanding.

If you always dreamed of being an artist, but everyone pressured you to become something “better” with “higher pay,” you have to look past what they say. Very few people have said that they’re glad they never pursued their dreams and just followed everyone else’s advice.

It might be difficult, it might not even work out, but you’ll never have that itching feeling of wondering how it could have been if you had just tried. You can find satisfaction in knowing that you tried your best.

You also have to be able to define what kind of person you are. Nobody is born inherently worth more or less than anyone else. If a few people think that you’re just a piece of trash, you have to look at who they are as a person, devaluing other people to make themselves feel better.

If someone tells you that you’re worthless, ignore them. They don’t know your story, they don’t know who you are in your mind, and they can’t make assumptions like that. Evaluate your own worth, think about the people that love you, the good that you do, and how you make a positive contribution to the world and if you feel like it’s lacking, make the change that will make you feel better about yourself.

How did it go? Hope I added some value to your life today? Feel free to let me know how you feel or what you think. I will love to hear from you. Drop your comment in the comment box below.

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My name is Stephen Adetolu, happily married and blessed with 3 lovely, wonderful and bright children. I am committed to impacting lives by delivering valuable success formulas and tips that have proven to be effective in every sphere of life. I am in a mission of Transforming lives for the better... I currently manage a financial and mind empowerment platform at Smart Choice International

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